Like many of my readers, I’m a millennial mom. I have a teen son, a pre-teen daughter, a teen bonus-son (stepson), and a toddler bonus son (stepson). I also have a great corporate career, I’m pursuing my dreams as an entrepreneur AND prepping to return back to school in the spring for my Master’s Degree. Honeyyyyyyy, I struggle with the balance of home and work life. I have a lot going on as you can see, I have goals I desire to achieve. I’m working hard now so I can play hard later. Many people ask me…
“Vee, how do you keep it all together and find balance?”
My response is always…”What is Balance?” I have no clue what the heck that even is because I haven’t experienced it lol. I remain sane the best way I can in between and I give myself an A+ for it all. I work for an employer 5 days a week, 6-8 hours a day and when I clock out I grind for my own dreams. For me, it’s important to have a job that understands what I have going on. I need the flexibility to be able to make my own schedule and come and go as I please and I honestly don’t think that’s asking too much because I’m an AMAZING employee, I always get my job done with pristine accuracy and my skill-set is often times unmatched. More importantly, my family comes FIRST and if any of them need me I need to be able to leave at moments notice without being reprimanded.
When I saw the following article on madamenoire.com, it spoke to my spirit.
Article courtesy of Madamenoire.com
Millennial moms, especially participants in the workforce, are flocking to progressive companies that are not only taking on new perspectives of product development and services, but also in the way they run their company. For years women have struggled with the balance of home and work life. Research has shown that, in general, women feel they are unable to perform optimally in any specific aspect of their life because of the split and high demand of their time and attention. With a shift in social norms, and most prevalently economics, it is not uncommon that both parents work outside of the home. Companies like Werk are pioneering flexible full-time and part-time work schedules for competitive candidates with children, and those who prefer to work from home.
Dean Auerbach, CEO and Founder of Werk, told Forbes, “Women are expected to work like they don’t have children, and raise children like they don’t have a job,” a statement that rings true in corporate norms. Have you ever gotten a call from the school nurse, saying your child needed to be picked up? Did you silently wonder why dad hadn’t been the default option? Do you ever find yourself the victim of perceived scrutiny, and over apologizing and compensation for having to leave work early, or work from home due to familial obligations? The tide is changing for women, and also men, who value their home life and influence, as well as cultivating their drive for a fulfilling career.
In the past, top talent has opted out of the workforce to stay at home due to feelings of inadequacy. In an ad by Chicco, a multi-brand baby company, a mom receives a performance review after returning to work from maternity leave. The touching segment sheds light on many of the concerns and fears of working mothers and fathers missing their children at home but who are also and passionate about their careers. General Manager of Feeding & Care for Chicco USA, Brenda Liistro told Forbes, “The insight for the overall campaign was born when we uncovered research that revealed the ‘emotional tug of war’ [parents] face,” Liistro goes on to say: “ultimately, moms are performing many roles, but they don’t believe they are performing any role as well as they would like.”
What was it like for you getting back into to the workforce after baby? Is this a struggle you find yourself trying to manage now? Comment below and tell how you’d grade yourself!